Get clear boundaries and confidence without force, self-betrayal, or the emotional hangover afterward.
Rewired
I help recovering people-pleasers regulate their nervous system so they can set boundaries, speak up, and stop abandoning themselves.
Right now you are…
Trying to set boundaries in your head but freezing or backtracking the moment it matters.
Explaining, over-explaining, or softening your needs so no one gets upset.
Doing “the work” but still ending up dysregulated, resentful, and disappointed with yourself.
The reason it’s not working is because you haven’t addressed the root: a nervous system trained to survive by keeping the peace.
There’s an easier way to stop people-pleasing at the source, and I want to show you.
In REWIRED I will show you the EXACT steps to regulate your nervous system so you can respond calmly, speak honestly, and stop defaulting to people-pleasing under pressure.
Imagine…
Walking into a hard conversation without your chest tightening or your mind racing.
Saying what you mean the first time, then moving on with your day instead of replaying it in your head.
Feeling steady when someone is disappointed, upset, or demanding, and realizing you don’t have to manage their emotions anymore.
Trusting yourself to handle whatever comes up because your body isn’t hijacking the moment.
Ready for your badass to emerge?
This step-by-step program will work for you
☑ EVEN IF you’ve tried therapy, books, or courses and nothing has stuck
☑ EVEN IF you tell yourself “this is just how I am” under stress
☑ EVEN IF you’ve been people-pleasing for so long you don’t remember another way
6 weeks from now you can have calmer reactions, clearer communication, and stronger confidence in hard moments.
Here’s what’s included..
Module 1: Stabilize + Safety
Nothing is wrong with you.
A clear, simple nervous system overview so you understand why you react the way you do
Gentle grounding and safety foundations to help your system exhale
Daily support tools introduced immediately, including short audios and a simple daily PDF
Module 2: See What’s Draining (Life Audit Part I)
This makes sense.
A guided life audit of your daily rhythms, environment, movement, food, tech, and pace
Learn how external inputs quietly tax your nervous system
No fixing or forcing, just noticing with support and clarity
Module 3: See the Patterns (Life Audit Part II)
These are adaptations, not flaws.
Explore internal and relational patterns including roles, coping habits, work, and relationships
Reframe people-pleasing and overgiving as survival strategies, not personal failures
Build compassion and understanding so awareness replaces shame
Module 4: Gentle Alignment
Now we choose, slowly.
Personalize your daily practices based on what your body actually responds to
Design a “Calm Core Day”, one ideal regulated day that feels supportive, not rigid
Learn why forcing change backfires and how to make small shifts without pressure
Module 5: Regulation Support Kit
Support when things spike.
A curated set of short audios, videos, and explanations for moments of stress or activation
Tools you reach for when life happens, not daily discipline
Learn how to steady yourself without trying to control or suppress reactions
Module 6: Embody + Sustain
This is who I am now.
Integrate regulation into real life so it becomes your new baseline
Create long-term rhythms instead of rigid routines
Anchor what works so you can return to it during future stress
There’s more..throughout the Program:
Weekly 1-hour live co-regulation calls for 6 weeks with me
These are not lectures or performance-based calls. They are structured, contained spaces for grounding, reflection, and nervous system settling.Guided co-regulation every week
Visualization, breath, and nervous system support led by my voice, with cameras optional.Short audio practices + simple daily PDFs
Designed to support regulation without overwhelm or pressure.A paced, nervous-system-safe progression
No forcing. No trauma dumping. No “fixing yourself.”
Bonus #1: The Regulated Response Library
Value: $297
Real-life, nervous-system-safe responses for the moments that usually send you spiraling.
What to say (and how to stay steady) when someone is disappointed, demanding, or pushing back. Designed to support you while your body is learning regulation, not replace it.
Bonuses
Bonus #2: Calm in the Moment – 5-Minute Regulation Audios
Value: $197
Short, targeted audio resets you can use before or after hard conversations. Support for moments of activation, overwhelm, or guilt without needing to “do the work.” Perfect for real life, not ideal schedules.
Bonus #3: The Guilt Hangover Reset
Value: $147
A simple process for what happens after you speak up or choose yourself. Learn how to move through guilt without undoing your progress or self-abandoning. Helps your nervous system settle so new patterns actually stick.
In 6 weeks from now you can have…
Calmer reactions in moments that used to hijack you
Clearer communication without freezing or over-explaining
More confidence handling hard conversations and decisions
A steady, grounded baseline instead of constant bracing
Truth is, learning to regulate your nervous system doesn’t have to be intense, technical, or overwhelmin, it can be gentle, practical, and woven into real life.
FAQ’s
Question #1: Is this therapy?
No. REWIRED is education and nervous-system support, not therapy. We focus on regulation, awareness, and practical integration without trauma processing or retelling your story.
Question #2: Do I need to know anything about the nervous system to do this?
Not at all. Everything is explained simply and experientially. Most people have never been taught this, and that’s exactly who it’s for.
Question #3: What if I’m really busy or low on energy?
This program is designed for real life. Practices are short, flexible, and optional. There’s no falling behind and no pressure to do everything.
Question #4: Will this make me confront people or have hard conversations right away?
No. We don’t force behavior change. As regulation builds, clarity and boundaries emerge naturally, without pushing or performing.
Question #5: What if I’ve tried therapy, coaching, or courses and nothing has worked?
That’s common. REWIRED works at the nervous system level, which is often the missing piece when insight alone hasn’t created change.
Question #6: What happens if I miss a live call?
You’ll still have access to the core program materials. Live calls are supportive, not mandatory, and nothing is “lost” if you can’t attend.
Question #7: Is this group-based or will I have to share personally?
Sharing is always optional and guided. There’s no pressure to disclose personal details, and the calls are structured to stay contained and safe, and it’s a 1:1 program.
Question #8: How will I know it’s working?
Most people notice subtle but meaningful shifts: calmer reactions, less guilt, clearer decisions, and a greater sense of steadiness in everyday moments.
Now it’s time for some #realtalk.
There are two costs to every decision.
COST 1: The cost of taking action.
In this case, it’s committing to learning how to regulate your nervous system so you can respond calmly, speak clearly, and stop living in constant self-override.
COST 2: The cost of not taking action.
Staying stuck in the same cycles of people-pleasing, bracing for conversations, swallowing your needs, feeling resentful afterward, and wondering why nothing ever really changes.
My Story
For years, I lived in cycles of anxiety, overgiving, and emotional exhaustion. I tolerated far more than I should have, not because I was weak, but because my nervous system learned to stay safe by staying agreeable. Even joyful moments left me depleted. I was constantly tracking everyone else’s needs while ignoring my own, and I kept ending up feeling abandoned, until I realized I was abandoning myself.
I did what conscientious women are told to do. I went to therapy. I relied on medications like Celexa and Ativan to cope. They helped me survive, but they didn’t teach my body how to feel safe. Despite being capable and high-functioning, I froze in conflict and overgave in relationships. Insight alone never changed my reactions.
When I learned about nervous system dysregulation, everything clicked. Working with my nervous system instead of overriding it changed how I moved through life. I became calm in moments that used to hijack me, and the constant fear trap fell away (I’m now medication free!)
As a Registered Nurse with a deep clinical background & training in nervous system physiology, I created REWIRED to guide women through this same shift; gently, practically, and without force.
This program is educational and supportive in nature and is not a substitute for medical or mental health care.
Not sure if this program is right for you? Have a question?
Email me: hello@kathryngoldschmidt.com